What Am I Going to do All Day?
December 9th, 2009
My impending stay at home momhood is looming in the not so distant future and it’s bringing up the question “what exactly am I going to do all day?” Good question. I have never been a stay at home anything. Ever. I have been working close to full time or full time since I was 16 and have no idea how to function when my “lazy time” doesn’t have a deadline.
There are the obvious answers of course – get Aidan ready and take him to school, laundry, house cleaning. That stuff won’t take all day every day, so what’s a girl to do? My workout schedule is about to become an actual schedule instead of the sucktacular piece of crap it has been lately and I have lots of crafty stuff that needs to be done, but then what?
Lots of my friends are stay at home moms and while a couple still have itsy bitsy kids, most of them are the parents of school age children. What do they do all day? I have one friend in particular who really doesn’t have a lot of hobbies. She’s not a reader or a crafter, I don’t think she knows what Facebook is and she only has one child, an eight year old daughter who goes to school all day. I’m trying to figure out how she spends the hours every day.
I’m sure I will spend a good week or so with my ass firmly planted on the couch, laptop in place, doing absolutely nothing. It’s the endless days, weeks, months that are perplexing me. I have a list of projects as long as my arm that I want to work on and thanks to Top Surf I plan on kan banning them ASAP! But what do I do when everything has been moved to my “done” column.
Help me out! How am I going to avoid becoming a slug? You know given the opportunity, I will do absolutely NOTHING for days on end! I need to stay busy so that doesn’t happen!
Paint the house.
My stay-at-home friends really volunteer for a lot of things at the school and church. With your background, you could probably help a non-profit a lot with financial planning.
Trust me, everytime I’ve had a hiatus from work, I had no trouble staying busy.
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Write, write and write some more. You have a talent for writing, it’s a lovely hobby, write yourself a good book and get it published.
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Oh wait, that’s just what I’m trying to do, minus the kids-at-school part because I homeschool
Good luck!
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You could volunteer for a few hours a week at a local animal shelter.
I know the one here always needs people to help out during normal work hours.
And if they are like the ones here, there should be a NO ADOPTION for X amount of time rule for new volunteers. Ours is 6 months. Which will get you past the heartbreak of wanting to bring all of them home.
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Definitely take some time to veg out. Then I’d say write, blog, and read!
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You know I thought the same thing when I became a stay at home Mom. You will be amazed how your time gets eaten up. I can walk into a room and decide to clean out a closet and that ends up being an all day affair. LOL YOu will fall into things too, such as volunteering for things especially at Aidan’s school. I was very involved when my daughter was that age and I wouldn’t have done it any other way.
I am so excited for you, as you enter into this new journey in your life. I think you should definitely take time for yourself and do things YOU want to do along with all that you ‘have’ to do.
…..and if you *really* get bored, you know you can always fly east!
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Write! Volunteer! Twirl! Visit friends, help a neighbor…there’s so much to do.
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Why not start a craft. Try out different hobbies and see which one you like the best. And what others have said Volunteer your time to helping the aging, or volunteer at school by being a parent on field trips. Your day will be filled and you will later be complaining that there is not enough hours in the day LOL Good luck
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Man, what a dilemma! I wish it was one I was faced with! You’ll be surprised at how your days fill up. Think of all the extra plurk time, lol!
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Write! Volunteer! Get out and enjoy the outside. Whatever you do, don’t stay cooped up in one place and don’t let yourself fall into the easy trap of no schedule. You’ll get bored really fast.
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What David said.
*psssssssssst* Sell on eBay or CraigsList …..
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pleasure your husband
thatisall
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Scrapbooking, cardmaking, volunteer at son’s school, Blog more, watch movies, cleaning, laundry, work out.
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I recommend taking a lover.
I’m off on Fridays, BTW.
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I hope you feel better about your SAHM future!
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My mom stayed at home with me, and even I– as a young child– used to wonder how she spent her days alone when I was at school. I never realized how much needs to be done around the house until I had a child, and had to work– and found my home dirty, meals uncooked, and everyone generally frazzled!
I am jealous of your impending stay-at-home-dom. Hopefully I’ll be able to join you one day… although then I’d have to change my blog’s title…
~Elizabeth
http://confessionsfromaworkingmom.blogspot.com
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I assure you, your days will fill up fast! And you’ll be driving to pick up your kid from somewhere and you’ll be thinking, already??? But, I go to the gym, do laundry, go to the grocery store, cook, run errands, walk the dog, scrapbook, blog…
Enjoy! You won’t be bored. If you are, well then hey, call me!
Just surfing around SITS. What a great site. I’ll be back soon for sure!
Alex aka Ma What’s For Dinner
http://www.MaWhats4Dinner.com
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